“Not everyone is a Caretaker. ” This statement is so important but so easily forgotten. We are lead to believe that we have an obligation to our parents because they raised us, but I truly believe we are not all born to take care of others.
If you do not have the patience for your parents on one of your “good days”, that would be your first sign – and one you really need to listen to; perhaps “primary caretaker” is not the position for you.
There are many jobs in the ‘posse’ and all are important, just as much as the caretaker. Everyone needs a ‘wing-man’ (or woman), and with out your caretaker entourage (ok enough about posse and entourage) you will not get very far; and may find that you are doing everything yourself.
The ultimate goal and end result is that you and your parents are HAPPY, COMFORTABLE, and enjoying each other’s company in your parent’s last stretch of life.
How is this going to be achieved if the primary caretaker is doing all the jobs, AND doing all the caretaking as well? That is like working a normal 9-5 job, coming home, putting on your nurse’s hat, chef’s hat, gardening outfit etc. Need I say more??
Everyone is good at something in life (besides caretaking), and if you already know what those talents are – GREAT!! You’re ahead of the game.
If you haven’t yet discovered your talents don’t worry – this is where the fun begins, finding out what you are good at and what you are passionate about. For example I have a passion for photography, but I would not go as far as to say I am ‘good’ at it. No one is going to hire me to photograph their wedding anytime soon.
Ok – Inventory Time!
Now we are going to find out what you’ll be best suited to. Write down a list of your passions and a list of activities that you perform well, including your best qualities. I have supplied you with a sample list of odd jobs that usually need to be done, but some of these jobs might not even apply to you. ( just have to click on the list icon and you’ll get a printable list )
I’ve separated the items into two lists because, for example a person who is passionate about cooking but who really shouldn’t attempt it (like myself), but who is really awesome at ORGANIZING, could take on the job of planning and making the weekly grocery shopping list.
When you find out what your strengths and your weaknesses are The CARETAKING TEAM can move to another level, so increasing happiness amongst siblings or family members.
Caretaking will become more of a joy and less of a burden, because you are doing something you have a passion for and also something which you do very well.